The Ugly and the Good: Invites to Women’s Events

I’ve avoided local female professional organization get-togethers because the announcements give me the willies.
Some are a turn-off because they are so hideously bridal-shower chatty, so “just us girls”, so clubby, exclusive and manipulative.
Others are preachy and directive, clubbing you over the head with their over-competitive “join us or else you and your business (and your children and your pets) will die” dog-eat-dog hard sell.
In other words, the announcements are everything that’s hideous about the American notion of a woman deserving of success, whether it be a good marriage or a fulfilling career.
Compare and contrast with a UK organization called “Women in Technology”. I’m sorry to be an ocean away, because the invites are respectful, guileless, non-manipulative, intelligent and, well, helpful.
Here’s an example of an event I’d love to attend.
Here’s a testosterone-fueled one that might appeal to Amazonian triathlete multi-national CEOs but not I suspect to the average woman.