We got word via email from Peter that Judy passed away yesterday at 5 PM.
In all the advice I’ve read about how to prepare for getting older, I’ve not seen a word about how to adjust to the death of friends.
I’ve done a lot of reading about Judy’s condition, which has been described as “unusual” and “rare”. As far as I can tell, it was treatable. I still can’t understand why her brain stopped functioning unless it was the result of infection.
I’ve known Judy for 20 years and can’t imagine her not being there for the annual Fourth of July party or other family occasions.
I saw Candy yesterday. She’s very unhappy, and I wanted to bring her books on tape, just to take her mind off things, but her nurse said that wouldn’t be allowed. Of course, she couldn’t explain why.
We went to Plymouth District Court today to support our friends who will be on trial for trespassing at Pilgrim: Joyce, Paul, Bill. We basically just sat there after talking briefly with each one. After listening to the lawyers drone on and on, my sympathies are with the judge.
This week’s theme is “just being there”, and it’s frustrating. There’s nothing we can do for anyone except that.