This weekend, I happened to catch bits and pieces of the movie version of “Sex In the City”, which has made it to cable and which generally I liked when it first came out, and cringed once again at the scene where Charlotte tells Carrie that adopting a little girl from China facilitated her becoming pregnant.
I’m not the only one: there’s a terrific blog about the challenges of infertility that explains better than I could why some women found this plot twist so offensive.
I didn’t know this, but the percentage of previously infertile women who become pregnant after adoption versus those who become pregnant without adoption is the same: only 3%.
So, where the myth that “God is thanking you for taking care of one of his little ones” came from is a mystery. Or maybe a rationale for something that we instinctively know is wrong: tearing apart one family to make another one happy.
Guess we’ll never know.